When you are a Still Mother, there are many situations and circumstances that are VERY difficult. If you ever feel the need, it is okay to:
- Unfollow or Hide a fellow baby loss mom when she becomes pregnant or gives birth to her healthy baby.
- Do various things that typically only moms and dads of living children do. Examples: Pictures with Santa Claus/Easter Bunny/Characters, celebrate your baby’s birthday with a party, purchase you baby a toy/outfit/something special, professional family pictures, baby scrapbook, family vacation pictures, etc.
- Tell people how many children you have regardless if it makes them uncomfortable.
- Politely correct people when they tell you that you will have another baby because of your health/youth.
- Celebrate the traditional Mother’s Day (and the traditional Father’s Day!). You ARE a MOTHER too!
- Assert yourself and declare that you are a Mother.
- Share pictures, memories, thoughts, etc. about your baby(ies) publicly.
- Cry, be upset, and express your emotions (in a healthy way) when you see pregnancy announcements and babies born alive and healthy.
- Not attend or plan baby showers. Even if it has been years since your loss. Even if it’s a family member or friend.
- Not want another baby or more children except for the baby(ies) you lost.
- Take something that belonged to or reminds you of your baby(ies) to various places you go. Examples vacation, holiday get-togethers, etc.
- Not attend various events and holiday get-togethers where there will be many families with living children.
- Take some time out to take care of and solely focus on you.
- Excuse yourself from conversations about pregnancies and living babies.
Have you done any of the things we’ve listed? Are there any other ways that we haven’t included that you do to protect your heart and mother your baby as a Still Mother?
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Reborns truly help
On the flip side of #14 I include myself in stories of pregnancy and birth. I have experienced them and want to share my story. Mine just doesn’t end the same as others do.
Not want to be on public places like Wal-Mart or out to eat because there’s babies/kids there
Yes exactly!