Remember Me on Mother’s Day

Walking through the stores lately, everything is all about Mother’s Day.

It’s like a punch in the stomach when your child is dead.

Does anyone remember that I am a mother too?

My son doesn’t walk this earth with me, but I am still a mother…..right?

Yes, I am. We all are. Yet, not many acknowledge us.

There are no Mother’s Day cards just for us. I suppose some people would like to buy us one, but I’m sure it’s not an easy thing to do. People probably wonder, “Do I make a card or just buy a regular card? Do I buy her a gift? Do I just let the day quietly pass by so not to upset her?” I wouldn’t want to be in their shoes to be honest, but I guess I don’t want to be in mine either.

I don’t think there is a ‘right’ way to go about any of this. For me, personally, I very much appreciate people remembering me on Mother’s Day. A card, flowers, lunch or just a simple” thinking of you” means so much.

Sometimes I want to scream “I am still a mother!” But where’s the point in that? Only making someone feel bad for not remembering me. So, while all the moms enjoy their special day with their children, I’ll spend the day with my child. At the cemetery.

I’ll always be his mommy. I guess I don’t need a special day to acknowledge it. We will always be mothers.

For those in my circle who may not know how to “handle me” on Mother’s Day, just remember me, remember him. Remember I am still a mother. The only thing I would ever want is to have my child here with me, and no one can give me that, but you can remember, and that’s a great gift.


babyMy name is Rebecca. I live on the coast of Maine with my best friend, and my toy Poodle, Farrah Mae. I am the proud mother of Tharryn Joseph Noah, born sleeping on 12-11-12 at 33 weeks gestation. We found out he was gone on my 33rd birthday, the day before. He is loved and remembered daily by his mommy, his daddy, his Grammy & his auntie. I keep breathing every day for him, and to keep his memory alive.

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