Every year we always say “New Year New Me”. That usually entails working out, setting goals, and dreaming about what this year will bring. But being a loss mom a New Year for me means a whole lot less. It means living another year childless. Living another year wishing I had what was taken from me the year before. It means a whole year of hearing all the new pregnancy announcements. It means another year of grief.
When the New Year began on January 1st I should have been ringing it in with my 8 month old. Instead, I was surrounded by a bunch of people that I barely know. Surrounded by a bunch of people who do not know my pain. Surrounded around a bunch of people who were ecstatic they had a babysitter for the night. I wanted to be able to say that I had a babysitter for the night because that would mean that I had a baby. But once again I didn’t. Once again I am living another year with no child. Once again I am living the same year over and over.
2017 will be my year….. At least that’s what everyone keeps saying. But I don’t want 2017 to be my year. 2016 was supposed to be my year. 2016 turned into the worst year of my life and it will spill into 2017. I do however have a little twinkle of hope that 2017 may be different. I hope that 2017 will just not be a sink pool of sadness and grief. Rowan’s spirit lives on in my heart and I want that spirit in the light and not consumed by darkness. So I keep telling myself that 2017 will be her year!
2017 will not bring her back but she will live on, through me.
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