I could not find the words this August; the 4th August without our son and starting of the 5th year without him. I don’t want to force the words out of me and thought instead that I should just note that the words have escaped me the same way that his life did when I was still carrying him, what I thought to be the most safe place he could be. Things are much different than they ever should have been. At night, I still struggle the most. During the day, I find that I’m still shuffling through most of the time.
I’m still so thankful to have been touched by this sweet little boy. I’m thankful for the movements and the kicks I was lucky enough to feel. I am thankful that I was able to kiss his sweet little face and hold his hands and feet. It would have never been enough time. Never. I miss him. So much. Even this many years out… many more to make my way through in the future.
Last year on August 22, Jasper’s 3rd birthday, we spent the entire day moving. This year, we will be attending a mandatory orientation for Jasper’s dad’s graduate program on Jasper’s 4th birthday. This is surely not how his birthdays would have been spent if he had lived. But. This cruel world doesn’t care to keep our days sacred for us. We will still have cupcakes for him as I’ve promised we would. They can’t take that away from us.
So instead of forcing words out of me, I thought it would be nice to reflect on his 3rd birthday post which I loved. Here is my dedication to my boy, The Boy In The Blue Box.
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- Therapeutic Endeavors Part II - January 24, 2018